Hundreds of participants converged for the second edition of Single & Secure, a transformative event focused on empowering singles with the tools for personal growth, emotional healing, and financial clarity.
Held on Sunday, July 20, at Shodex Garden, 251/153 Ikorodu Road, Anthony, Lagos, the seminar – organised by Hearthub Solutions, guided attendees through practical sessions designed to help them attain self-security before pursuing romantic relationships.
Muslim News gathered that the event began with an interactive segment tagged “Fastest Fingers,” which set a lively and engaging tone for the day’s activities. It was climaxed with a 160-page book launch written by the convener, Mrs. Bushrah Okeowo Bombata, fondly called Mrs BOMB.
Growing your wealth requires financial clarity – Abdul Kabir Kuye
The first speaker, Mr. Abdul Kabir Taiwo Kuye, Senior Manager at KPMG West Africa and financial literacy advocate, challenged common assumptions about wealth-building.
Drawing from over a decade of financial advisory experience, Mr. Kuye stressed that wealth creation is not reserved for the rich or entrepreneurs alone.
“Even if you’re earning $10,000, you can still build wealth,” he said, debunking the myth that 9-to-5 employees cannot achieve financial independence.
Mr. Kuye emphasized intentionality and structure in managing finances, urging participants to budget with precision, track expenses using tools like Excel, and aim to save as much as 70% of their income. “If you’re not saving up to 70% of your income, you’re not ready to build wealth,” he said, quoting his mentor.
He also advised entrepreneurs to structure their finances like employees-budgeting, reinvesting profits, paying themselves, and avoiding lifestyle inflation. For singles considering marriage, he warned against prioritizing wedding ceremonies over long-term financial security. “Plan for the marriage, not just the wedding. Live within your means,” he added.
Heal before you love: Emotional scars shape our relationships – Ameenah Yunus-Ali
Therapist and family mediator, Mrs. Ameenah Yunus-Ali delivered a deeply emotional and reflective session, sharing her personal story of childhood trauma and how it shaped her adult decisions. She recalled a defining moment at age seven when her mother came home empty-handed after a robbery, leaving the family hungry.
“That experience became a turning point that fueled her determination never to feel helpless again. Years later, working multiple jobs led her to a breakdown in her late 20s. Therapy forced her to confront the reality that she had been living her mother’s life story, not her own.
“Our past defines us whether we accept it or not,” she said, encouraging attendees to pursue emotional healing.
She explained that three fundamentals: personality and perception, purpose, and past, shape each individual. Healing, she noted, requires taking responsibility for one’s emotions and decisions. “Two broken people cannot make a whole marriage,” she cautioned.
With piercing questions, she challenged participants to assess their emotional safety: Are you emotionally safe? Can you accept affection? Do you recognize your trauma? Do you over-explain to be loved? She redefined true security as having people who extend kindness even when you are hard on yourself. “You may be bruised, you may have scars, but you are still blessed,” she concluded.
Hesitation can cost you opportunities – Takuma
Life coach and content creator Mr. Nurain Takuma brought a practical dimension to the conversation on confidence with a bold demonstration, offering ₦5,000 to the first person to take it. Only one participant responded, which he used to illustrate how hesitation costs opportunities.
“The difference between doers and watchers is action,” he said. Takuma shared his personal journey from being a shy gamer to a confident speaker, attributing the change to key principles: taking responsibility, doing what scares you, choosing the right company, and acting without overthinking. “No one is coming to save you. Act now,” he declared, challenging attendees to break free from self-imposed limitations.
Many serve themselves ‘breakfast’ by ignoring emotional red flags: Mrs BOMB
The final session was led by the host and family coach, Mrs. Okeowo-Bombata, who engaged participants in an honest conversation about heartbreak, self-sabotage, and emotional accountability. With her characteristic humour, she likened heartbreak to “breakfast,” suggesting that many people serve it to themselves by ignoring emotional red flags.
“You serve yourself breakfast when you ignore everything you’ve learned here,” she said. She encouraged singles to reflect on their emotional patterns, emphasizing the importance of therapy, personal clarity, and financial independence.
“There is nothing wrong with a woman having money. Secure yourself financially,” she noted, while urging participants to detach from unhelpful relationships and environments, warning that unresolved trauma leads to repeated heartbreak.
Highlights of the event
The programme also featured interactive questions via Menti.com that provoked thoughtful responses: When do you get tired of a relationship? Can you spend on your man? What red flags can you not compromise on? What reasons would you keep your ex’s contact?
By the end of the event, one message stood firm: being single is not a sentence, but a season of becoming. The overarching call was for individuals to pursue wholeness; financially, emotionally, and mentally, before seeking togetherness.
Each speaker contributed uniquely to this message, creating an enriching and holistic experience for all in attendance.
The details about the book launch will be reported in a separate report.
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