•Marital problems emerge before choosing spouse: Okeowo Bombata
The Chief Executive Officer, BlackMoh Consulting, Mr. Mohammed Ahmed has said lack of effective communication destroys homes and leaves couples in regrets.
While highlighting the influence of effective communication in marriage, Ahmed advised the participants to always carry their partners along.
The clinical psychologist spoke at the maiden single conference hosted by Hearthub Solutions themed “Single and Secure: embracing self growth and personal care”.
He stated that people, especially men do not communicate effectively in their marriages.
He said there is nothing wrong in being vulnerable to one’s partner, advising them to have self control, not to seek validation and should solely make decisions about some aspects of their lives.
He urged the unmarried to be self-determined in order to have personal growth and also in choosing the right person
According to him, one can obtain self-determination through having reasonable level of competence, autonomy and relatedness.
He stressed that everyone, especially those that are single should cultivate those traits because it will help them when they get married.
Ahmed emphasized on the importance of good and sustainable connections before marriage.
He urged everyone to build strong relationships and not to rely solely on their partners as it destroys marriages.
He also said individuals should know the type of relationship that exists in their spouses lives before marriage as it will help them to navigate and manage any obstacle that might occur after marriage.
A panel of experts was set up to talk to the youths on understanding themselves, self care and love and how to have happy marriages.
One of the panelists, Kazeem Lawal said most singles are scared of marriage, adding that the conference was meant to help in changing people’s negative thoughts about marriage.
He stated that it is eminent to find a spouse that upholds the same values as yours for effective marriage life.
He said he has never regretted meeting his wife since they got married sixteen years ago.
The Chief Host, Bushrah Okeowo-Bombata said as a marriage counselor for many years, she discovered that a lot of marriage problems emerge before choosing someone.
She stated that the event was to enlighten single people on how to work well on themselves before marriage.
“I brought this together for singles so they can understand themselves, know their inadequacies, understand their traumas and also be wholesome before they say yes” she noted.
She appreciated those who contributed to the success of the programme and also the participants that were present.
One of the participants, Ifeoma Dike said the conference exceeded her expectations on having self worth, care and how to prepare for marriage life.
She said the experience gained was interesting and impactful as it has changed her perspective on some matters related to marriage.
She thanked the organizers for hosting this type of event.
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